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AtricleZine - Bullying - A Problem Far Too Common
You're a single female who has everything except a man. This could be for many reasons. By choice is one or maybe you're a difficult person to deal with. We could go on and on for hours about what the reason is but that's not what we're here to talk about. We are here to talk about why it is that single women choose to date married men.We've heard it all. Some single women say they date married men because it's easy and that they're not looking for a commitment at the time. Ok so, if you're not looking for a committment then why someone who is supposed to be committed for life? Why not a single guy? How easy can it be to be in a relationship with a married man? There is no way that you can just say it's only something to do from time to time. Feelings have to be factored into the equations somehow, because you didn't like him because he was easy. It was something about that man that drew you to him in the first place.You say you want to see him from time to time. Time to time involves a lot of things such as trying to get together to see one another. Granted you may be very busy or not, but trying to see someone who's married can be very difficult either way. If you are free for the day and just need to spend time with him, you have to see if he is available. After you find out if he is or not then you have to try and work around his schedule. Sounds like a lot of work for someone who want to see someone from time to time. Once you both have figured out what his schedule is and when it is that you can see him the next move is how long you can see him.To Be Continued...
* Encourage families to model appropriate behaviour for them- if children are brought up by parents who display inappropriate behaviours, they cannot be blamed for copying their role models.
*Inappropriate behaviour of children should be dealt immediately with in an assertive, non-threatening way.
* Schools should adopt a policy of non-tolerance, outlining non-acceptable behaviours- most bullies know which behaviours are acceptable and which are not.
* Reinforce positive behaviour
* Design class activities to teach bullies how to identify with the victim and to realise the impact of violence on the victim.
*It may be helpful for the parents of the bully to co-sign a "contract" outlining behaviour guidelines.
* As a last resort the child/children who bully may need to be referred for mediation or counselling.
Strategies to support victims
* Make sure the child feels safe and will not be harmed by talking to someone about the problem
* Sit down with the child and find out what has been happening
* Listen carefully and be patient- most victims find it hard to talk about this problem and more often deny the extent of their problem
* Find out if anyone has said or done anything that the child feels bad about and finds difficult to tell you
* At all times the child needs to feel that you are supportive- you cannot be seen to be blaming or criticising them for being a victim
* You ne
I ran across a very insightful article in CLO Magazine today written by Tina Teodorescu (I had to cut and paste that one!). The article, “How Effective is Your Sales Training Program?” talks about the unique challenges of developing an effective training program for people that fund your payroll.Tina brings light to the fact that we’ve come to rely on Sales Managers, who were in many cases top performers themselves, to develop their team’s talent. The problem is these people were promoted because of their excellent sales skills, not their employee development skills. In other cases we rely on HR or T&D to develop these programs when they don’t have a sufficient understanding of the dynamics of sales to do so.The article mentions using your top performers actual day to day tasks and activity (if I am reading correctly) as the basis for your training program instead of skills and competencies. This is where our opinions start to differ.I have always been a believer in benchmarking your top performing sales people and developing toward that baseline. I also agree that competencies and skills are very difficult to measure in such a subjective process as sales. However I don’t feel that duplicating an activity pattern alone is going to get you where you need to be.If you have a salesperson who is a terrible communicator, do you really want them speaking to an extra 20 prospects a day? If a salesperson can’t close deals, do you really want them working more of them?It reminds me of the old seminar joke - “don’t send idiots to motivational seminars because you only end up with highly motivated idiots.”While I think most of Tina’s thoughts are solid, I really feel that there needs to be a balance between process and execution. I personally would
- Different types of bullying
- Some examples of these
* Our Definition
* Types of bullying and examples
* Why some children bully
* How to recognise a bully- seven elements
* How to recognise a victim- signs of a bullied child
* Group work- Scenarios
* Strategies to support bullies- how to prevent bullying
* Strategies to support victims
* Why children with special needs may be bullied
* Effects of bullying
* Group work- Creative tasks
* Conclusion
OUR DEFINITION
Bullying involves the psychological, emotional, social or physical harassment of one or more person by another individual or group. It includes behaviours and actions that are verbal, physical and/or antisocial.
Different types of bullying ===========================
There are four main categories that types of bullying come under. These being: psychological, emotional, social and physical harassment.
Some examples of different types of bullying
Emotional and Psychological- This can include: name calling, intimidation, verbal teasing, and gestures that imply later violence
Verbal-This can include: laughing, giggling, whispering, yelling, verbal threats, spreading rumours, name calling,
Social-This can include: exclusion, name calling, teasing, ignoring, mimicking, nasty notes, pointing, staring, making faces, spreading rumours, demanding money or threatening behaviour
Physical-This can include: pushing, shoving, hitting, kicking, punching, flicking, theft, throwing victims belongings, breaking/hiding/pushing over or interfering with victims belongings, pulling hair, tearing clothes or belongings, stalking, using weapons
(Field.M, 1999, pg 20-23)
Why some children bully
In order to help victims of bullying to help themselves, there is a need to have some idea why some children bully, how and why they are given opportunities to do so, and how we can monitor, reduce and eventually eliminate bullying.
These are some reasons why children bully:
* Some bullies are simply bored, and see bullying as fun
* Children sometimes tease simply to get a reaction
* The bully believes that bullying makes them more popular or better accepted by their peers
* Most bullies often have difficulty dealing with their own feelings, so they focus on the feelings of others instead.
* Some children are frustrated and prefer to pass on this frustration by bulling rather than dealing with it themselves
* Bullying provides the bully with attention from their peer group, at the victims cost
* Some bullies believe that aggressiveness provides them with status, control, power and feelings of belonging
* Some children believe aggression is the only way to resolve conflict.
* Bullies can be the smart popular children who abuse roles of power and leadership and use them to hurt others
* Some teachers do not take bullying seriously- they simply believe the children are playing around
How to recognise a bully
Bullies are people who tease, frighten, threaten or hurt others who are not as strong as they are. Most bullies work on their victims fear. They manipulate their victims to exist in a state of fear, reminding them regularly with a look or other action, verbal or non-verbal, of what might happen to them. Some children only bully when they are with friends or a gang. They think they are being "cool". Bullies are sometimes regarded as being strong and powerful, and are often popular and admired by other children. (Field.M, 1999, pg 31)
Bullying has been shown to incorporate seven elements:
* There is an initial desire to hurt whether it be physical or emotional
* Desire is expressed in action
* Someone is hurt
* The action is directed by a more powerful person or group against someone less powerful
* It is without justification
* It is typically repeated
* It is done with evident enjoyment
How to recognise a victim
The child who is most likely to become a victim is very sensitive and easily hurt. They show distress very clearly. They are more likely to be anxious, cautious, submissive, non assertive, and quieter than the other children. Some children are shy, others lack common social skills. Their facial expressions and body language can often show how they are feeling, whether it be happy, sad, angry, hurt or even show a look of powerlessness. More often than not, at least for a period of time, these children deny or reject help. They claim that they can cope, when realistically they are struggling to handle the situation. If a child is generally sad at school, or not happy a good deal of the time, it is essential that you talk to them to try to discover what is causing their unhappiness. (Field.M, 1999, pg 20)
Signs usually displayed by a child being bullied:
* If a child is frequently involved in fights
* Money/lunch/or other belonging being taken or damaged
* Bruises/cuts or torn clothing
* Often tired- indicating child not sleeping well
* Tries to stay with teacher during breaks
* Lack of participation in class activities
* Sitting alone in class or on playground
* Does not want to go to school
* Appears sad/depressed/withdrawn
* Sudden changes in behaviour, e.g. moody
* Shows more signs of anger than usual
* Denies unhappiness and claims to be fine
* Has low self-esteem
* Made fun of and laughed at
* Very few friends
* Chosen last for teams or games
Strategies to support bullies
* As a teacher- reinforce the need/expectation, that all children treat each other with courtesy and respect.
* Teach bullies assertive communication skills within the context of the normal class so that they can learn more effective ways of relating to others.
* Encourage families to model appropriate behaviour for them- if children are brought up by parents who display inappropriate behaviours, they cannot be blamed for copying their role models.
*Inappropriate behaviour of children should be dealt immediately with in an assertive, non-threatening way.
* Schools should adopt a policy of non-tolerance, outlining non-acceptable behaviours- most bullies know which behaviours are acceptable and which are not.
* Reinforce positive behaviour
* Design class activities to teach bullies how to identify with the victim and to realise the impact of violence on the victim.
*It may be helpful for the parents of the bully to co-sign a "contract" outlining behaviour guidelines.
* As a last resort the child/children who bully may need to be referred for mediation or counselling.
Strategies to support victims
* Make sure the child feels safe and will not be harmed by talking to someone about the problem
* Sit down with the child and find out what has been happening
* Listen carefully and be patient- most victims find it hard to talk about this problem and more often deny the extent of their problem
* Find out if anyone has said or done anything that the child feels bad about and finds difficult to tell you
* At all times the child needs to feel that you are supportive- you cannot be seen to be blaming or criticising them for being a victim
* You nee
PPC (Pay Per Click) advertising is something of a minefield for most first time website owners. Unfortunately, there are no 100% reliable mine detectors available and no safe shortcuts. New website owners have no option but to accept the risks involved and hope that they can find their way through without exploding their advertising budget.The way PPC works is simple, you open an account with a search engine, place an advertisement for your website with a list of words you wish to trigger the showing of your ad (these are your "keywords"), state how much you are willing to pay for each visitor who clicks through to your website (your "bids"), set a daily maximum budget figure and sit back while the PPC search engine delivers visitors ("traffic") to your website.When somebody types one of your keywords into the search engine, your advertisement will be shown. Its position will depend upon the amount you offered ("bid") on the keyword. The higher your bid, the nearer the top your ad will be. The higher the position of your ad, the larger the number of people who will see it and the more likely you are to receive clicks. It is called Pay Per Click because there is no fee charged for displaying your advertisement, you just pay each time someone clicks on the link to your website.The first thing to note is that although the way PPC works is simple, that is not the same thing as easy to do. Pay Per Click advertising can be very difficult to master. Some lucky people seem to take to PPC the way a duck makes itself at home on its first visit to a pond but, for the vast majority of people, PPC involves a steep learning curve and lots of trial and error, testing and tweaking. For some people PPC undoubtedly brings a major headache, lots of frustration and often financial loss.If you are just starting out with Pay Per Click advertising it p
Physical-This can include: pushing, shoving, hitting, kicking, punching, flicking, theft, throwing victims belongings, breaking/hiding/pushing over or interfering with victims belongings, pulling hair, tearing clothes or belongings, stalking, using weapons
(Field.M, 1999, pg 20-23)
Why some children bully
In order to help victims of bullying to help themselves, there is a need to have some idea why some children bully, how and why they are given opportunities to do so, and how we can monitor, reduce and eventually eliminate bullying.
These are some reasons why children bully:
* Some bullies are simply bored, and see bullying as fun
* Children sometimes tease simply to get a reaction
* The bully believes that bullying makes them more popular or better accepted by their peers
* Most bullies often have difficulty dealing with their own feelings, so they focus on the feelings of others instead.
* Some children are frustrated and prefer to pass on this frustration by bulling rather than dealing with it themselves
* Bullying provides the bully with attention from their peer group, at the victims cost
* Some bullies believe that aggressiveness provides them with status, control, power and feelings of belonging
* Some children believe aggression is the only way to resolve conflict.
* Bullies can be the smart popular children who abuse roles of power and leadership and use them to hurt others
* Some teachers do not take bullying seriously- they simply believe the children are playing around
How to recognise a bully
Bullies are people who tease, frighten, threaten or hurt others who are not as strong as they are. Most bullies work on their victims fear. They manipulate their victims to exist in a state of fear, reminding them regularly with a look or other action, verbal or non-verbal, of what might happen to them. Some children only bully when they are with friends or a gang. They think they are being "cool". Bullies are sometimes regarded as being strong and powerful, and are often popular and admired by other children. (Field.M, 1999, pg 31)
Bullying has been shown to incorporate seven elements:
* There is an initial desire to hurt whether it be physical or emotional
* Desire is expressed in action
* Someone is hurt
* The action is directed by a more powerful person or group against someone less powerful
* It is without justification
* It is typically repeated
* It is done with evident enjoyment
How to recognise a victim
The child who is most likely to become a victim is very sensitive and easily hurt. They show distress very clearly. They are more likely to be anxious, cautious, submissive, non assertive, and quieter than the other children. Some children are shy, others lack common social skills. Their facial expressions and body language can often show how they are feeling, whether it be happy, sad, angry, hurt or even show a look of powerlessness. More often than not, at least for a period of time, these children deny or reject help. They claim that they can cope, when realistically they are struggling to handle the situation. If a child is generally sad at school, or not happy a good deal of the time, it is essential that you talk to them to try to discover what is causing their unhappiness. (Field.M, 1999, pg 20)
Signs usually displayed by a child being bullied:
* If a child is frequently involved in fights
* Money/lunch/or other belonging being taken or damaged
* Bruises/cuts or torn clothing
* Often tired- indicating child not sleeping well
* Tries to stay with teacher during breaks
* Lack of participation in class activities
* Sitting alone in class or on playground
* Does not want to go to school
* Appears sad/depressed/withdrawn
* Sudden changes in behaviour, e.g. moody
* Shows more signs of anger than usual
* Denies unhappiness and claims to be fine
* Has low self-esteem
* Made fun of and laughed at
* Very few friends
* Chosen last for teams or games
Strategies to support bullies
* As a teacher- reinforce the need/expectation, that all children treat each other with courtesy and respect.
* Teach bullies assertive communication skills within the context of the normal class so that they can learn more effective ways of relating to others.
* Encourage families to model appropriate behaviour for them- if children are brought up by parents who display inappropriate behaviours, they cannot be blamed for copying their role models.
*Inappropriate behaviour of children should be dealt immediately with in an assertive, non-threatening way.
* Schools should adopt a policy of non-tolerance, outlining non-acceptable behaviours- most bullies know which behaviours are acceptable and which are not.
* Reinforce positive behaviour
* Design class activities to teach bullies how to identify with the victim and to realise the impact of violence on the victim.
*It may be helpful for the parents of the bully to co-sign a "contract" outlining behaviour guidelines.
* As a last resort the child/children who bully may need to be referred for mediation or counselling.
Strategies to support victims
* Make sure the child feels safe and will not be harmed by talking to someone about the problem
* Sit down with the child and find out what has been happening
* Listen carefully and be patient- most victims find it hard to talk about this problem and more often deny the extent of their problem
* Find out if anyone has said or done anything that the child feels bad about and finds difficult to tell you
* At all times the child needs to feel that you are supportive- you cannot be seen to be blaming or criticising them for being a victim
* You ne
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* Some teachers do not take bullying seriously- they simply believe the children are playing around
How to recognise a bully
Bullies are people who tease, frighten, threaten or hurt others who are not as strong as they are. Most bullies work on their victims fear. They manipulate their victims to exist in a state of fear, reminding them regularly with a look or other action, verbal or non-verbal, of what might happen to them. Some children only bully when they are with friends or a gang. They think they are being "cool". Bullies are sometimes regarded as being strong and powerful, and are often popular and admired by other children. (Field.M, 1999, pg 31)
Bullying has been shown to incorporate seven elements:
* There is an initial desire to hurt whether it be physical or emotional
* Desire is expressed in action
* Someone is hurt
* The action is directed by a more powerful person or group against someone less powerful
* It is without justification
* It is typically repeated
* It is done with evident enjoyment
How to recognise a victim
The child who is most likely to become a victim is very sensitive and easily hurt. They show distress very clearly. They are more likely to be anxious, cautious, submissive, non assertive, and quieter than the other children. Some children are shy, others lack common social skills. Their facial expressions and body language can often show how they are feeling, whether it be happy, sad, angry, hurt or even show a look of powerlessness. More often than not, at least for a period of time, these children deny or reject help. They claim that they can cope, when realistically they are struggling to handle the situation. If a child is generally sad at school, or not happy a good deal of the time, it is essential that you talk to them to try to discover what is causing their unhappiness. (Field.M, 1999, pg 20)
Signs usually displayed by a child being bullied:
* If a child is frequently involved in fights
* Money/lunch/or other belonging being taken or damaged
* Bruises/cuts or torn clothing
* Often tired- indicating child not sleeping well
* Tries to stay with teacher during breaks
* Lack of participation in class activities
* Sitting alone in class or on playground
* Does not want to go to school
* Appears sad/depressed/withdrawn
* Sudden changes in behaviour, e.g. moody
* Shows more signs of anger than usual
* Denies unhappiness and claims to be fine
* Has low self-esteem
* Made fun of and laughed at
* Very few friends
* Chosen last for teams or games
Strategies to support bullies
* As a teacher- reinforce the need/expectation, that all children treat each other with courtesy and respect.
* Teach bullies assertive communication skills within the context of the normal class so that they can learn more effective ways of relating to others.
* Encourage families to model appropriate behaviour for them- if children are brought up by parents who display inappropriate behaviours, they cannot be blamed for copying their role models.
*Inappropriate behaviour of children should be dealt immediately with in an assertive, non-threatening way.
* Schools should adopt a policy of non-tolerance, outlining non-acceptable behaviours- most bullies know which behaviours are acceptable and which are not.
* Reinforce positive behaviour
* Design class activities to teach bullies how to identify with the victim and to realise the impact of violence on the victim.
*It may be helpful for the parents of the bully to co-sign a "contract" outlining behaviour guidelines.
* As a last resort the child/children who bully may need to be referred for mediation or counselling.
Strategies to support victims
* Make sure the child feels safe and will not be harmed by talking to someone about the problem
* Sit down with the child and find out what has been happening
* Listen carefully and be patient- most victims find it hard to talk about this problem and more often deny the extent of their problem
* Find out if anyone has said or done anything that the child feels bad about and finds difficult to tell you
* At all times the child needs to feel that you are supportive- you cannot be seen to be blaming or criticising them for being a victim
* You ne
Are you familiar with the buy and sell business?This is how stock trading works. The issuance of new stock shares of the different companies throughout the world is an important activity for the business oriented people in line with the trading business. The bottom line for this is simple, and that is in order to raise capital and invest in the business.With the advent of the Internet, trading is even made easier and possible for everyone who wants to engage in the business. You can also have the access to receive everyday update regarding the status of your stock trading venture.Stock trading is known to all. However, most of the people are not aware of its main advantages that it can offer them. On the other hand, there are also some drawbacks that you have to expect in stock trading. Like any other kinds of businesses, stock trading has its pros and cons. We have to know them one-by-one to take advantage or avoid them.Advantages:• Sure returnsThis is particularly true for active stock trading. You can benefit from better returns with stock trading instead of just buying and holding your investment.• Variety of ChoicesThe web world offers wide variety of stocks that you can choose from. As much as possible you have to try finding stocks with moving prices.• FamiliarityMost of the stocks that are presented in the net are more or less familiar to you. It takes a little time and effort for you to understand each of them. Disadvantages:• LeverageIt is a manifested flaw of stock trading. The leverage for this trading is much lower as compared to the Forex or future trading.• Rule on Short SellingIt makes the
Signs usually displayed by a child being bullied:
* If a child is frequently involved in fights
* Money/lunch/or other belonging being taken or damaged
* Bruises/cuts or torn clothing
* Often tired- indicating child not sleeping well
* Tries to stay with teacher during breaks
* Lack of participation in class activities
* Sitting alone in class or on playground
* Does not want to go to school
* Appears sad/depressed/withdrawn
* Sudden changes in behaviour, e.g. moody
* Shows more signs of anger than usual
* Denies unhappiness and claims to be fine
* Has low self-esteem
* Made fun of and laughed at
* Very few friends
* Chosen last for teams or games
Strategies to support bullies
* As a teacher- reinforce the need/expectation, that all children treat each other with courtesy and respect.
* Teach bullies assertive communication skills within the context of the normal class so that they can learn more effective ways of relating to others.
* Encourage families to model appropriate behaviour for them- if children are brought up by parents who display inappropriate behaviours, they cannot be blamed for copying their role models.
*Inappropriate behaviour of children should be dealt immediately with in an assertive, non-threatening way.
* Schools should adopt a policy of non-tolerance, outlining non-acceptable behaviours- most bullies know which behaviours are acceptable and which are not.
* Reinforce positive behaviour
* Design class activities to teach bullies how to identify with the victim and to realise the impact of violence on the victim.
*It may be helpful for the parents of the bully to co-sign a "contract" outlining behaviour guidelines.
* As a last resort the child/children who bully may need to be referred for mediation or counselling.
Strategies to support victims
* Make sure the child feels safe and will not be harmed by talking to someone about the problem
* Sit down with the child and find out what has been happening
* Listen carefully and be patient- most victims find it hard to talk about this problem and more often deny the extent of their problem
* Find out if anyone has said or done anything that the child feels bad about and finds difficult to tell you
* At all times the child needs to feel that you are supportive- you cannot be seen to be blaming or criticising them for being a victim
* You ne
Keeping in mind that the cost of college education is much higher than it used to be, by the time you graduate from high school you already need to consider applying for one or several student loans. Fortunately, taking up several student loans is not complicated as there is a student loan consolidation program available to you that will roll all your existing loans into a single one.The federal government, in its efforts to provide accessible and affordable education for all, has set low and fixed interest rates on all federal student loans and is also offering a student loan consolidation program with flexible repayment schedule and reduced interest rates. All the advantages of loan consolidation are available to you: you make a single payment every month instead of the several payments you initially had, the amount of money you pay is lower than the sum of amounts you had on your previous loans and there is only one lender that you make the payment to. Also, applying for a student loan consolidation program is an easy process that does not involve any credit checks and does not require you to pay any additional fees or charges.Advantages and disadvantages of a student loan consolidation programWith the student loan consolidation program you get all the advantages that come with rolling several different loans into one. The interest rate is lower than the average of your previous interest rates, which means you can actually save money while you are repaying the loan, and it is not subject to change for the duration of your repayment schedule. The repayment plan is flexible, you can extend the period you need to pay back the loan, or you can choose to pay the entire sum earlier with no additional prepayment penalties. There is also the option of making the payments online which decreases the rate of interest by 0.25% and also keeps you constant
* Encourage families to model appropriate behaviour for them- if children are brought up by parents who display inappropriate behaviours, they cannot be blamed for copying their role models.
*Inappropriate behaviour of children should be dealt immediately with in an assertive, non-threatening way.
* Schools should adopt a policy of non-tolerance, outlining non-acceptable behaviours- most bullies know which behaviours are acceptable and which are not.
* Reinforce positive behaviour
* Design class activities to teach bullies how to identify with the victim and to realise the impact of violence on the victim.
*It may be helpful for the parents of the bully to co-sign a "contract" outlining behaviour guidelines.
* As a last resort the child/children who bully may need to be referred for mediation or counselling.
Strategies to support victims
* Make sure the child feels safe and will not be harmed by talking to someone about the problem
* Sit down with the child and find out what has been happening
* Listen carefully and be patient- most victims find it hard to talk about this problem and more often deny the extent of their problem
* Find out if anyone has said or done anything that the child feels bad about and finds difficult to tell you
* At all times the child needs to feel that you are supportive- you cannot be seen to be blaming or criticising them for being a victim
* You need to express confidence that something can be done to fix the problem and stop it from occurring in the future
* If the child has been physically hurt and has bruises or cuts or if their belonging have been damages make sure principal and parents are informed and an incident report is filled out for future reference.
* Find out how the child has been suffering and how they feel about it
* Have a guest speaker visit the school to talk about confidence and some mental strategies children can use to build confidence
* Run a "victims support group" this can be done discreetly without whole class knowledge
6 steps for a victim to deal with bullying
1. Deal with your feelings
It is very important for children who are bullied to identify what they are feeling. Dealing with our feelings mobilises us to action. Expressing feelings is a form of power. Children can abuse, lose or use this power.
2. Understand why you were bullied
It is extremely important for the victim to understand why they have been bullied, (e.g. for fun, looks, weight etc). It avoids wasting energy on blaming or becoming defensive. Understanding will lead to action and a remedy- doing nothing doesn't work. Wrong time, wrong place- anyone can be a victim.
3. Build your Self-Esteem
Children need to build their self-esteem in order to handle bullies and to create a better social life for themselves. Children need constant feedback as a constructive tool for gaining self-esteem.
4. Becoming a confident communicator
Children need to improve their communication skills to deal with bullying. Children need help from teachers and parents to project a positive confident image- that is, not to be scared, but to be prepared.
5. Empowering the individual
Design a plan of action that will empower the victim. Ensure that children are well prepared to frustrate the bullies attempt to hurt them. Remind the individual that bullies love secrecy and hate publicity.
6. Develop a support network
Children who are active participants in a social group cope better than those who try to survive on their own. Children need to develop social skills to improve their support network at school. Parents need to know how to help their children develop these networks both in and out of school.
Why children with special needs may be bullied
Children can be victimised because they look different. Being physically or mentally handicapped, can set up a child for victimisation. Children who have lower than average intelligence or who are experiences learning difficulties often have problems coping with ordinary class work, and may require special attention inside or outside the classroom. This can make them feel excluded and can cause them to have greater difficultly integrating socially. Many are sensitive about their work difficulties, seeing any teasing as criticism and reacting in an aggressive or provocative manner. Children with learning difficulties will often hide their lack of understanding for fear of being teased for being "stupid. At the same time, some of their peers may resent these children receive special attention and this can be a reason to bully them. Another reason that children with special needs can be bullied is because their peers do not understand the child's disability. Rather than trying to understand why the disabled child is different, it is simply easier to bully them."
Effects of bullying
Some people believe that while bullying can be hurtful and painful, they fail to realise the impact it can have in a child's life. Bullying, whether it be social, emotional, physical or psychological, can cause a range of short and long term effects for both the bully and the victim
Effect for the bully:
* After a while the bully loses their power, his popularity will diminish and they can end up being a social drop out
* After a while the bully's friends can get tired and reject their manipulative ways
* Due to their inability to deal with conflict or violence they have problems in relationships later in life both platonic and intimate.
Effects for the victim:
* Bullying can lead to poor self-esteem, bouts of depression, and social isolation in adulthood
* They continued to be bullied at work or at home. They are easily taken advantage of
* The quality of education they receive is often severely diminished
* They are scared to socialise and find it hard to make friends, as other children fear they will be bullies for being friends with that person
* The friends they do make would probably not be caring or consoling and probably would not support them in times of need
* Children can develop a sense of hopelessness. Due to constant bulling the feel powerless and cannot see beyond the constant fear and depression.
* In extreme cases, due to the constant barrage from bullies over an extended period of time some children can develop suicidal tendencies. This may not be as relevant in the primary years but it is the lack of stopping it at this early age, which can prevent this from happening.
James is the most popular boy in his grade. One day at school he made a mean remark to one of the boys in his class- not intending to be nasty, he just did not think about what he was saying. His friends all laughed and though this was funny and encouraged James to keep acting this way towards the boy. Although he did not want to, James continued this behaviour.
Why might James have felt like this? What are some ways he could have stopped this behaviour from happening?
Jenny just moved to Australia from New Zealand. She did not realise that she had an accent until she was at school and heard other girls whispering about how weird she spoke. Although the girls did not say anything directly to her, Jenny could always hear them whispering
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